Doctors Suck – Here’s Why

As many of you know, I’ve torn some cartilage in my knee.  Went to see the doctor last week and he looked me over, gave me a shot of cortisone in the knee, and told me to see him next week to check on my progress.  I stop at the appointment desk on the way out and pick up my card.  The gal at the desk says “We have an opening on Thursday.  Will 11:00 work for you?”  I pay and leave, sticking the card in my purse and adding the appointment to my PDA. 

I get to the doctors office today.  Lo and behold, she’s made my appointment for two weeks out – it’s next Thursday.  Their office is bad enough WITH an appointment.  It’s usually a 2 hour wait.  I don’t really have all day to hang around and wait to see if they can see me.  Worse still, I have to make special arrangements to drive to work just so that I can go to the doctor.  I have to get my truck back from my husband because their office isn’t on the train route and I mass-commute to work.  I no longer pay for a parking spot, so I have to scramble for one of the rare public parking spots.  Now, it’s all for naught.

It all made me angry.  We’re supposed to sit in the waiting room like good little sheep waiting for his holiness the doctor to see us at his convenience.   It’s not like we have lives that are being interrupted or anything.  I don’t know about any of the rest of you, but I’m self employed.  I work as a consultant and I make *at least* as much as the doctor does. I went off at the receptionist and told her to cancel my appointment.  I’m firing my doctor.   “

Like the doctor, my time is money.  If I’m not working billable hours, I’m not getting paid.  Worse yet, not only am I not getting paid, I’m having to pay the doctor.  Talk about double-dipping.  I make just as much money as your doctor does and your stupid over scheduling means that I have to wait two hours even with an appointment.  I can only imagine how long I’m going to have to wait if I don’t have one.  I’m not some cow in a cattle chute and I won’t be herded around like one.  It’s very rude and very disrespectful to every single patient to make them sit around like this.  I don’t see where you people get off deciding that you are soooo much more important than the rest of the world that we need to drop what we’re doing and wait on you for hours and hours.  If I was coming here to work on your computers and I kept you waiting for two hours, you’d fire me.  I don’t see why the relationship going the other way is supposed to be any different.”

Drama Queen – a.k.a. Stoooopid Women

I know someone that we’ll call her Nancy.  Nancy was dating a guy named Henry.  Henry asked Nancy marry him even though Henry had several other women going on the side, including a couple of other marriage proposals.  Now, Henry is an pathologist (M.D.) and even though he’s 41, he’s got a nice lifestyle from his profession.  Nancy found out about Henry’s other women. 

Henry explained to her that they were just friends, but Nancy wasn’t  completely reassured.  Because she was suspicious, she installed some software on his computer to see what Henry was up to. Lo and behold, Henry is a cheating man-ho. It didn’t take long before the IM’s and emails offered up proof that Henry was carrying on more than platonic relationships with the other women. 

Now, Nancy started poking around to see what else Henry had told her was a lie.  She uncovered an incident where he had beaten a former girlfriend.  Apparently this incident had not been sent to the licensing board and Henry is quite concerned that Nancy will notify them of the incident.  If Henry were to loose or have his license to practice medicine suspended, this would greatly impact his lifestyle. 

Now, instead of just letting this looser go, Nancy has decided to terrorize Henry.  She’s been contacting the other women that Henry has been seeing and informing them that Henry is a wife-beater. She’s made several posts on several web sites and even put up a web site that complains about Henry’s actions.  Most of the information has been removed due to complaints by Henry.  However, Nancy is still unwilling to move on.  She spends her days obsessed by what Henry’s doing and what woman Henry is taking advantage of next.  Apparently, Henry’s newest target is a young lady that works for him.  Since she’s only 21, Nancy wants to advise this girl’s parents of Henry’s previous actions. 

Nancy has also been trying to obtain Henry’s cell phone records and a host of other personal information in the hopes that this will some how give her the ammunition to “ruin him like he’s ruined so many women.”  Frankly I find this behavior to be some what at odds with “normal”.  In spite of suggestions that she seek professional help and being told point blank that she’s acting like a stalker, she persists in knowing what Henry is up to at any given moment.  The really sad part is that Nancy is a single mom.  If she’d devote half as much time and energy to making money as she does to trying to “nail” Henry, she’d a millionaire by now.  I’m sure that her child would benefit from some of this mis-spent time an attention to. 

Women – Still 2nd Class After All These Years

Well, we’re still second class citizens in most of the world even though we make up 52% of the population.  A recent soccer game, meant to bring Christians and Muslims together on a different (and unarmed) field of conflict was canceled.  Apparently the imans (Muslim priests) felt threatened that even coming into accidental contact with a one of the female priests was unacceptable and might “rouse special feelings” that “could lead to something inappropriate.”  Now…will someone kindly explain to me what’s so dang sexy about a hot sweaty woman who’s been playing soccer?

A shrine in Japan is devoted to nothing more than ending bad relationships.  Guess who visits that?  You got it.  Most of the visitors are women who crawl down a rock tunnel to offer up prayers that their miserable relationship be ended.  I’m thinking you have to be pretty desperate to crawl, on your hand and knees, for fifty feet down a small, claustrophobic rock tunnel to leave an offering and pray to be rid of your boyfriend, husband, etc. 

At the women in Japan aren’t slaughtered for wanting to leave their relationships.  In many countries, it’s easy enough to kill a woman for a wide variety of reasons.  Maybe she didn’t serve dinner on time.  One woman was murdered publically – having her throat slit in the town square because a song was dedicated to her over the radio by someone outside her family.  What backward place did this occur in you ask?  Well, actually it was in Turkey which is by far one of the more moderate Muslim states. 

In places that are even less enlightened than Turkey, the problem is far worse.  If you speak to anyone but a family member, you can be killed.  If you don’t dress “properly” (i.e. wear a bag over your entire body with one eye hole) when you leave the house, you can be killed.  One woman was killed because her husband had a dream that she was going to have sex with someone else.  She hadn’t actually done anything.  He just had a dream.  Another woman was lured by her mother to her mother’s office so that her father and brothers could muder her.  Her great crime that was worthy of a death sentence – she wanted a divorce from a violent and abusive husband.  Lest you think these are some uneducated and ignorant folk – let me disabuse you of that notion now.  Her mother was a physican and her father was a lawyer – a lawyer for the UN no less and involved in human rights issues. 

Maybe the dowry wasn’t big enough to make the husband happy.  He keeps the dowry, kills the woman, and then marries again, obtaining yet another dowry.  Nothing like dousing your new and pregnant bride with kerosene and setting her on fire so that you can find another one.   Not that the second one is likely to fare much better. 

Other women are abused because they or their family reject the man as a candidate for marriage.  Girls have been set on fire, doused with acid, and disfigured in a variety of ways.  Once a suitor is rejected, he may well take it out on the girl in question in order to keep her from being able to marry anyone else.  It’s so heinous and juvenile, it should be punishable by death.  “I can’t have you, so I’m going hold you down while this acid eats half your face off so that no one else will want you.” 

Then we have the modification of the female anatomy in order to render the woman “acceptable” to her husband.  I’m sure that some of you will have heard of the term “female circumcision“.  What most of you do not know is that this practice is quite wide spread.  It normally involved removing most a woman’s external genitals in a ritual fashion.  That means that it’s usually done without any kind of anesthia and with some sort of a crude intrument – like a sharp bone or shell.  It’s also not done in anything like modern hygenic conditions either.  If you don’t survive the process, you were “a witch” and didn’t deserve to live. If you do survive the process, your body is now rendered disfunctional, prone to infection, unable to bear children normally, and often has a whole host of other health issues. 

Then we move on the more “enlightend” countries.  While we’re not property, with all the issues involving ownership and breeding rights, we’re still not equal to men.  The pay gap between men and women, instead of narrowing, is widening.  Decades of being the second wage earner has done nothing for us.  Instead, we pay money so that some $8/hr looser can raise our kids in day care while we work to bring in some extra cash to “give our kids the good life” and  so “they can have all the stuff I didn’t”. 

Yeah – we have equality.  NOT!